Thread: Should I sell my best mate?

rent her out to them for the odd weekend win win

Wow...that's a big lump of cash. To put it another way....if dog got sick or injured how many of us would say to vet" up to $2-3000 is as much as we willing to spend,if it's $10-12000 ,well no put dog down". I know as hard as it may seem,that would be our situation. PERSONALLY ...I would take offer and start again,it gives dog to people who really want her around and you a chance to start a fresh,hopefully with gained knowledge of what worked n what didn't so don't end up with another potlicker.

Originally Posted by Hermitage

But I'm not her entire world.
The reason the neighbours have fallen in love with her is that she spends a lot of time over at their place. They feed her (even though I've told them not to), and even used to call her to their house (I had to put a stop to that).
So she probably could transition relatively easily (it would be harder on me I think rather than her ).

Kind of sounds like you've made up your mind

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So she's 3yrs old thereabouts?. Would love to see a photo.
Please don't take this the wrong way but as she's not a top line purebred who in their right mind offers 12k for a cross breed??. That would make me suspicious tbh, do they have genuine intentions for her or do they have plans for her that you may not be aware of??. Is she spayed?.

That's pretty serious money alright and maybe your neighbours have gazillions I don't know, you obviously will know them well enough to be the judge of all that. If someone offered me a few hundy for my dog then I would think that's about right. If they offered 12k or even 8k I'd seriously start thinking WHY!. I would be concerned for the pooches future given the young age.

As I said pls don't take me the wrong way and if it is a genuine offer and they are decent good people then it's a bloody good offer, it's a bit of a quandry for ya to be sure.

Originally Posted by Micky Duck

Wow...that's a big lump of cash. To put it another way....if dog got sick or injured how many of us would say to vet" up to $2-3000 is as much as we willing to spend,if it's $10-12000 ,well no put dog down". I know as hard as it may seem,that would be our situation. PERSONALLY ...I would take offer and start again,it gives dog to people who really want her around and you a chance to start a fresh,hopefully with gained knowledge of what worked n what didn't so don't end up with another potlicker.

I agree. Easy for others to sit back and make comments about dogs being family members & priceless, but the reality is that they’re only with us a relatively short time at best.

I’d be inclined to take the money, be happy knowing she is going to a great home and start over with a new pup.

People who train service dogs must go through this all the time.

I re-homed a dog due to dynamics with the family and other dogs, but I still feel bad about it and wonder how he's getting on. That said, he's probably forgotten about me and is living his best life.

As has been said, it sounds like he would be going to a good home, but would you feel like you are betraying them? And what difference would the 12k make to your life?

It's really a call that only you can make.....

Rich

$12000 take it - but is it legit- man alarm bells - if its sounds to good to be true generally its not - but not a fighting breed so okay there - but yeah it equals big alarm bells - unless as some have said more money than than the Clampetts

I appreciate all who have commented. I just read them after returning from spending the morning with my dog on a local beach. It was a bit of an overcast day, but that seemed to make walking along this isolated and wild beach with her an even more special experience.
It's at times like this, with me throwing the frisbee and her having fun retrieving it, that I realise how lucky we are to have each other. She is really all I have, I'm single with no children or family so she is very special in my life... so much so that I've decided I can't let her go... even for $12,000. Some might call my decision crazy but after 3 years together, hours and hours of training and lots of great memories I just can't sell her.

I don't want to say too much about the neighbours but the husband has made a shit ton of money from his businesses and there is no 'alternative motive' for wanting to buy her as some possibly hinted at. While he tells me that they both love my dog, it's the wife who is totally infatuated. She is on the Autism spectrum with high-functioning Aspergers which the husband says can make her fixate or get 'stuck' on certain things which she finds very difficult to let go.
Whenever I talk to her, she always brings the conversation back to my dog. Whenever she talks to me it is only about my dog.... so my dog has become a huge part of her world in probably an unhealthy way. The husband said that when I told her that I and the dog were moving away (1 week ago), she fell into a deep depression - hense the amount of money offered to buy her.

But no I can't sell her and this move away from these neighbours is probably the best thing that could have happened. Gives her time to grieve and my dog and I space from this unwanted pressure of emotions.

Decision made...thanks for all your opinions.

Hold out for $15K

Hermitage, that's an awesome decision backed up by true feelings, you'll be happy in yourself knowing you've made the right decision for both you and her.

Now post a pic of her so we can all appreciate it
And look forward to the many years ahead mate!.

yes you maybe right- I had an ex girlfriend with very similar fixation problems - likely once she had the dog then move onto something else --mind you if they said $15 K we would not be surprised to see a mind change

No wrong decision here.

If you don't need the money and your heart says keep her, then cool. I come from a background of having working and hunting dogs, They all sleep in the house nowadays. One on the bed. And too be fair if I was offered that much for one, Id likely take it with the exception..... possibly... of one or two favourites that I just right now couldnt imagine having sold.

I was about to chime in with the "is the wife on the spectrum?" question. My 9yo daughter is the same - I guarantee you one thing that dog will be loved to within an inch of it's life and in a good way. The husband will be getting the stress about the dog moving like you wouldn't believe.

On a similar vein to the previous question someone asked, would you let the neighbour's wife have overnight "sleepovers" with the dog? It sounds funny, and 10 years ago I would have been WTF? but now having had my eyes opened to how this particular neurospicy works I can see the neighbour husband's point. I suspect his wife has completely fallen nutty over the dog because of the same nature you have noted, and he's probably pretty stressed about how things will be with that change in his wife's life. ASD types don't really do change/loss like that I've noted!

I'll add an edit here - it seems weird for us normies (or normal brain neurotypicals) but the spectrum brain can have a LOT of trouble navigating other humans as we do sarcasm and reverse psychology and a whole lot of confusing "say the opposite of what we mean" or "say what we feel and not what we mean" stuff which can be very hard for the autistic ones to navigate. I know with my daughter I need to be extremely careful with my usual immediate sarcastic response to everything, as she just does not get it and when she realises she's got it wrong it's usually a tears/meltdown situation. Females tend to become very good at "masking" behaviour which is closely watching the interactions emotions and expressions of the people around them and matching the vibe they see. It's insanely tiring to be "on point" observing and matching all day so they generally struggle with social interaction and get really fatigued, and females suffer worse for this than autistic males in my observation as social stuff is more smile/claws/happy/bitchy and a lot more work to navigate. This is what drives the infatuation with animals that you can get with autistic people - animals don't tend to bullshit and let you know exactly what they are feeling. Not a suck eggs sort of statement here - just trying to possibly add a bit of info as to why they might be willing to place such a high value on what the rest of us consider a non-pedigree dog... I can say it's been a hell of an education for me navigating a 9yo daughter with this diagnosis - the amount of info the girl's brain processes in a day is just crazy. Smart as hell but often can't do anything with it as completely fried with info going in!

@Hermitage, I read this thread last night and now was my first chance to comment. I was planning to post differently, but with your update and additional context, I think you have made the right decision. I did a couple of years living on my own and I think having a pet made the difference between it being an easy way to live, vs lonely. It’s a quiet house to come home to when your cat/dog doesn’t meet you at the door, and 12k can’t keep you company the same way. So I would suggest you would notice the absence of your dog more often and more acutely then you will notice the absence of 12k from your bank acc.

I probably sound like a cunt but dont make their problems your problems